OK, I hate to sell my husband out here but I’ve got to get some input on this. Why do husbands get to sleep through the morning chaos and then wake up in the morning complaining about how tired they are…after all is restored and calm and the day has been started?
I have been pondering this question for the last several months, since the birth of the boys. But more so in the past few days since we’re going on week #4 that the kids have been sick and up throughout the night. I have been trying unsuccessfully to find a logical explanation for my question.....Why is it that my husband gets to lay in bed well past the sun has peeked over the horizon while my day started when it was dark enough that the moon could still be seen? Better yet, why does he get to sleep his aches and pains away without even a thought to who's going to get the kids up and ready for their day?
As of late, he has had a few fun events that he’s had the privilege of attending – all of which have given him reason to come home VERY late. His social schedule (which has involved a work function or two) allows him to get home late some nights from Terps games, Redskins games, basketball league games or whatever “guy” events he attends. Mind you, I have been home taking care of the kids while he is out enjoying this time with his buddies. But after these engagements, is that a license to sleep extra long the next morning, just because you were out partying your butt off the night before and got home late BY CHOICE? I think my inquiry into this issue peaked yesterday when he dropped the bomb that he wanted to go on a golf trip in March for FIVE days in Naples…ahem, when was the last time I left him alone with the kids for a R&R trip during the work week for five days?
Our nanny arrives at 8am each morning, and I’m out the door shortly after to get to work. By the time she gets there, the kids are ready to go for the day. MOST DAYS he is flailing by this time to get into the shower and get out the door himself – I'm actually his human alarm clock, giving him reminders of the time in between my morning duties & getting the house organized for the day. Prior to his eyeballs even seeing the day of light, I have checked and responded to email, updated my blog, taken a shower, woken two kids up, dressed two kids, changed diapers, fed the screaming cats, cleaned out the litter boxes, put out the dry cleaning for pick up, put out the trash if needed, started breakfast, poured glasses of milk, added a load of laundry to the washing machine and eaten my own breakfast.
If I posed this question directly to him, his response would be “just tell me what you need help with and I’ll be happy to help”. And in his defense, he would help. He’s great like that. I too get to go out when I want to for certain events during the week and he steps right up and does Daddy duty. But the killer is the fact that he just stays in bed in the mornings until I wake him up – and on weekends, he would sleep until noon time if I let him; and wouldn’t really see a problem with it. Am I crazy for being so irritated at this?
Which brings me back to the question.....Why is it that my husband gets the privilege to catch zzzz's until the very last moment, while I feel like I've already run a marathon by the time he meanders out of the bedroom? There must be a logical answer to this question.....anyone?
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whenever fin asks me "how you know that?" i answer with, "because i passed the mommy test". you do know what happens if you fail the mommy test, right?
you become a daddy!
seriously though - i dont know why they get the honor of sleeping late, etc. and we become responsible for them like they are an additional child. i say, tell him sure, go to naples - when you get back i will see your 5 days and raise you 6 and head off on your own trip!
hang in there friend!
Wow I feel like you were writing my story and I am not sure if that makes me feel better or worse that it is not just my husband. We had a long talk and worked out that on the day he gets back from business he get to sleep in by one of the weekend days is mine. Mind you his sleeping in is 10 and mine is 8 and most of the time I just listen from 7 on to kids screaming etc while he tries to get control but hey I am snuggily in bed.I agree with N one boys golf week equals one week of your choosing. So when do we get to go out for drinks again and complain about husbands??
Come On Chuckie :)) You can do it!!! This seems like it's a Man thing , kids or no kids :)) One of my friends I think has a good idea and I think one of yours did also,someone get's sat. to sleep in then sun. the other does and you switch each weekended :))) Just lay in bed Kate when it's your day even if you are just catching up on a good book :)) Then he'll see and maybe he will get up when it is still dark to help now that he knows what REALLY goes on :)))
xoxox
Melanie
LOL. I love this. A.J. always is telling me "honey, just tell me what you need done, and I'll do it!" Hello??!!! Don't you know what needs to be done? Don't you watch me pack the diaper bag each day, get them dressed, change their diapers--- can't you just guess what needs to be done? The answer is, "No" Plus, the one day he did help, he put their clothes on backwards and they didn't match... so, maybe I should just keep doing what I am doing?? ;-)
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-Debbi, Mommy to Sophie and Sally
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